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Developing Good Homework Habits

Some children get right down to work without much encouragement. Others need help making the transition from playing to a homework frame of mind. Sometimes providing a ten-minute warning is all it takes to help a child get ready mentally as well as to move to the place she intends to work.

There is no universally right time to do homework. In some families, children do best if they tackle their homework shortly after returning home from school in the mid afternoon; other youngsters may do best if they devote the after-school hours to unwinding and playing, leaving their homework until the evening, when they may feel a renewed sense of vigor. Let your child have some say in the decision making. Homework can often become a source of conflict between parent and child—"Johnny, why can't you just do your homework with­out arguing about it?"—but if you agree on a regular time and place, you can eliminate two of the most frequent causes of homework-related dissension.

Some parents have found that their children respond poorly to a dictated study time (such as four o'clock every afternoon). Instead, youngsters are given guidelines ("No video games until your homework is done"). Find out what works best for both your child and the family as a whole. Once this is de­termined, stick with it.

Some youngsters prefer that a parent sit with them as they do their home­work. You may find this an acceptable request, particularly if you have your own reading or paperwork to complete. However, do not actually do the homework for your child. She may need some assistance getting focused and started and organizing her approach to the assignment. Occasionally, you may need to ex­plain a math problem; in those cases, let your child try a couple of problems first before offering to help. But if she routinely requires your active participation to get her everyday homework done, then talk to her teacher. Your child may need stronger direction in the classroom so that she is able to complete the assign­ments on her own or with less parental involvement. One area where children may need parental help is in organizing how much work will have to be done daily to finish a long assignment, such as a term paper or a science project.

If your child or her teacher asks you to review her homework, you may want to look it over before she takes it to school the next morning. Usually it is best if homework remains the exclusive domain of the child and the teacher. However, your input may vary depending on the teacher's philosophy and the purpose of homework. If the teacher is using homework to check your child's understand­ing of the material—thus giving the teacher an idea of what needs to be empha­sized in subsequent classroom teaching sessions—your suggestions for changes and improvements on your child's paper could prove misleading. On the other hand, if the teacher assigns homework to give your child practice in a particular subject area and to reinforce what has already been taught in class, then your participation can be valuable. Some teachers use homework to help children develop self-discipline and organizational and study skills. Be sure to praise your youngster for her efforts and success in doing her homework well.

In general, support your child in her homework, but do not act as a taskmas­ter. Provide her with a quiet place, supplies, encouragement, and occasional help—but it is her job to do the work. Homework is your youngster's respon­sibility, not yours.

As the weeks pass, keep in touch with your child's teacher regarding home­work assignments. If your youngster is having ongoing problems—difficulty understanding what the assignments are and how to complete them—or if she breezes through them as though they were no challenge at all, let the teacher know. The teacher may adjust the assignments so they are more in sync with your youngster's capabilities.

Whether or not your child has homework on a particular night, consider reading aloud with her after school or at night. This type of shared experience can help interest your child in reading, as well as give you some personal time with her. Also, on days when your child does not have any assigned home­work, this shared reading time will reinforce the habit of a work time each evening.

To further nurture your child's love of reading, set a good example by spend­ing time reading on your own, and by taking your youngster to the library and/or bookstore to select books she would like to read. Some families turn off the TV each night for at least thirty minutes, and everyone spends the time reading. As children get older, one to two hours may be a more desirable length of time each day to set aside for reading and other constructive activities.

As important as it is for your child to develop good study habits, play is also important for healthy social, emotional, and physical growth and develop­ment. While encouraging your child to complete her assignments or do some additional reading, keep in mind that she has already had a lengthy and per haps tiring day of learning at school and needs some free time. Help her find the play activities that best fit her temperament and personality—whether it is organized school sports or music lessons, free-play situations (riding her bike, playing with friends), or a combination of these.

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More than two hours of homework may be counterproductive, research suggests.

A Stanford education researcher found that too much homework can negatively affect kids, especially their lives away from school, where family, friends and activities matter.   "Our findings on the effects of homework challenge the traditional assumption that homework is inherently good," wrote Denise Pope , a senior lecturer at the Stanford Graduate School of Education and a co-author of a study published in the Journal of Experimental Education .   The researchers used survey data to examine perceptions about homework, student well-being and behavioral engagement in a sample of 4,317 students from 10 high-performing high schools in upper-middle-class California communities. Along with the survey data, Pope and her colleagues used open-ended answers to explore the students' views on homework.   Median household income exceeded $90,000 in these communities, and 93 percent of the students went on to college, either two-year or four-year.   Students in these schools average about 3.1 hours of homework each night.   "The findings address how current homework practices in privileged, high-performing schools sustain students' advantage in competitive climates yet hinder learning, full engagement and well-being," Pope wrote.   Pope and her colleagues found that too much homework can diminish its effectiveness and even be counterproductive. They cite prior research indicating that homework benefits plateau at about two hours per night, and that 90 minutes to two and a half hours is optimal for high school.   Their study found that too much homework is associated with:   • Greater stress : 56 percent of the students considered homework a primary source of stress, according to the survey data. Forty-three percent viewed tests as a primary stressor, while 33 percent put the pressure to get good grades in that category. Less than 1 percent of the students said homework was not a stressor.   • Reductions in health : In their open-ended answers, many students said their homework load led to sleep deprivation and other health problems. The researchers asked students whether they experienced health issues such as headaches, exhaustion, sleep deprivation, weight loss and stomach problems.   • Less time for friends, family and extracurricular pursuits : Both the survey data and student responses indicate that spending too much time on homework meant that students were "not meeting their developmental needs or cultivating other critical life skills," according to the researchers. Students were more likely to drop activities, not see friends or family, and not pursue hobbies they enjoy.   A balancing act   The results offer empirical evidence that many students struggle to find balance between homework, extracurricular activities and social time, the researchers said. Many students felt forced or obligated to choose homework over developing other talents or skills.   Also, there was no relationship between the time spent on homework and how much the student enjoyed it. The research quoted students as saying they often do homework they see as "pointless" or "mindless" in order to keep their grades up.   "This kind of busy work, by its very nature, discourages learning and instead promotes doing homework simply to get points," said Pope, who is also a co-founder of Challenge Success , a nonprofit organization affiliated with the GSE that conducts research and works with schools and parents to improve students' educational experiences..   Pope said the research calls into question the value of assigning large amounts of homework in high-performing schools. Homework should not be simply assigned as a routine practice, she said.   "Rather, any homework assigned should have a purpose and benefit, and it should be designed to cultivate learning and development," wrote Pope.   High-performing paradox   In places where students attend high-performing schools, too much homework can reduce their time to foster skills in the area of personal responsibility, the researchers concluded. "Young people are spending more time alone," they wrote, "which means less time for family and fewer opportunities to engage in their communities."   Student perspectives   The researchers say that while their open-ended or "self-reporting" methodology to gauge student concerns about homework may have limitations – some might regard it as an opportunity for "typical adolescent complaining" – it was important to learn firsthand what the students believe.   The paper was co-authored by Mollie Galloway from Lewis and Clark College and Jerusha Conner from Villanova University.

Clifton B. Parker is a writer at the Stanford News Service .

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After-school activities: The pros and cons of filling your kids’ schedule

From www.care.com

By Emily Starbuck Gerson

When Robyn Parets’ two boys were young, she was torn in numerous directions, running all over Boston to take them to extracurricular activities. Like many parents, she thought her kids needed to be involved in as many activities as possible. But one day at her 7-year-old son Noah’s soccer game, she noticed he was more interested in pulling grass than actually kicking the ball.

“That was a lightbulb moment for me; my kid didn’t love it and he wasn’t good at it,” she says. “He isn’t a traditional sports type, so why am I even knocking myself to get to those games?”

Since her kids were little, Parets has owned Pretzel Kids, a nationwide kids yoga company that trains adults to teach yoga to kids, so she knew the importance of mindfulness and stress management. Following that aha moment, she focused on guiding her kids to just one activity each that they both were good at and liked — not just what all the other kids were doing.

In recent decades, there’s been increasing pressure on parents to involve their children in extracurriculars. Part of it is the competitive nature of getting into schools and college these days. Another factor is the need for after-school care with today’s working family. There are certainly mental, physical and developmental benefits to being involved in after-school activities like sports or the arts, but overscheduling kids can also do more harm than good.

Keeping your kids so busy outside of school that they lack free time for play or rest can lead to stress, anxiety and depression, says Dr. Harpreet Kaur , a licensed clinical psychologist for kids and teens at CHOC in Orange County, California.

“I think parents feel this pressure to prepare their kids for academic success and make them competitive college applicants and make them successful for a job, but they often miss out on that unstructured playtime that provides some of the skills that kids need to be successful anyway,” she says.

The benefits of extracurriculars

Don’t get us wrong — there are plenty of compelling reasons to have kids involved in extracurricular activities. Kaur says extracurriculars help improve the overall functioning of children.

Encourages positive habits

Kids do best when they have structure and routine, she says, and those involved in extracurriculars perform better academically and are more likely to finish high school.

“These children engage more with their parents and are more active in their community,” Kaur says. “They’re also less likely to engage in drug use or other criminal activities.”

Helps develop skills and interests

Jennifer Fink, a nurse-turned-freelance writer in Mayville, Wisconsin, is the mother of four boys. She founded the site BuildingBoys.net to help parents and teachers better support and advocate for boys, and she says an extracurricular activity “gives children a chance to develop their skills, learn more about their interests and connect with others who may share the same passions and interests that they do.”

Fosters time-management skills

Fink has found that getting involved in extracurriculars can also help teach the kids time management.

“Sometimes a kid wants to do a lot of different things, and it may look like too much to us,” she says. “I think there’s some value in letting them try it and see how it goes. If all of those things are really important to the kid, they may find a way to make it work and learn very important time management skills in the process — things like how to get your homework done even when you’re playing on a sports team and taking a dance class.”

The downside of overscheduling

Unfortunately, overscheduling kids in too many extracurricular activities can take a toll on both the children and their parents, and it’s becoming increasingly common — an alarming trend that Kaur has observed in her practice.

Interrupts valuable unstructured playtime

Kaur says there’s simply not enough information out there about how valuable play is.

“Unstructured playtime promotes social skill development, and kids develop problem-solving skills,” she says. “It allows them to be creative thinkers and develop assertiveness, and they learn how to cope with negative emotions. If you think about children when they get into a conflict on the playground, they have to manage some of these things without an adult present.”

Kaur says unstructured playtime has become so deprioritized that an American Academy of Pediatrics report recently encouraged pediatricians to prescribe play to help make it more common for children again.

Triggers stress, anxiety and depression

When kids are too overscheduled and stressed, they’re more prone to anxiety, irritability, tiredness and destructibility, Kaur says. She adds that rates of anxiety and depression are already somewhat high in the general adolescent population, and “overscheduling kids just makes those rates increase.”

Increases pressure on parents

In addition to stress the kids feel from being overscheduled, Fink says it’s also hard on the parents, who often have to be in more places at once than is physically possible.

“I think parents need to be cognizant of their own tolerance and capability and energy, as well, because sometimes I think that’s where the negatives first show up,” she says. “The kids might still be doing OK, but if you’re driving yourself crazy trying to get everybody to everything, it’s not necessarily worth it.”

7 ways to find balance

If your family feels hopelessly overbooked and overstressed, here’s the good news: There’s a lot you can do to regain a sense of balance.

1. Create a visual schedule

Kaur recommends that parents create some sort of visual reminder of everything that’s going on, whether it’s a calendar or list of activities, and to color code it by family member.

“If one person has too many things going on in their schedule, it’s easy to identify, and it helps families be more aware when they’re creating schedules for their children,” she says.

2. Schedule downtime

Another way to help busy kids, Kaur says, is to schedule at least an hour a week for family time to relax and have quality interactions together. This could be anything from cooking or playing a game to watching a movie as a family, she says.

3. Make room for unstructured play

Kaur also urges parents to give kids of all ages unstructured playtime.

“It’s so helpful for a child’s development and allowing them to pick an activity they enjoy and blocking out an afternoon or weekend time for the child to pursue their own interest,” she says.

4. Practice moderation

While it’s tempting to have your child involved in a million activities in order to look like a stellar college applicant, Kaur says, pay attention to what the children value and where their interests are, and consider picking just one or two activities that are meaningful. It’s wise to focus on quality over quantity and schedule in moderation, Kaur says.

5. Try mindfulness

In her business, Parets has also noticed a stark increase in stressed and overscheduled kids, and she sees yoga and mindfulness as a potent antidote. She started her own kids on yoga from a young age and saw how much it helped them. In families with frazzled kids, she recommends dropping them to just one extracurricular and then bringing them to yoga.

“Here, they’ll find a place that’s noncompetitive, where they can just be themselves, feel good in their own skin, gain confidence and all the other benefits that go along with it,” she says.

6. Celebrate kids’ differences and talents

Parets has noticed that many parents fear their kids being “different” from other kids if they aren’t involved in certain activities, and they worry that their kids won’t get into college if they aren’t involved in everything under the sun. But in her experience, tuning into your child’s true talent and nurturing it, even if it’s not the most popular extracurricular, makes them happier and healthier — and there are colleges that are happy to accept someone who shines at one thing rather than is simply involved in 10 things, she says.

7. Find the right balance for your family

While Fink points out that there’s no single definition of “overscheduled,” and it varies depending on each kid and family, the rule of thumb that’s worked best for her family is also just one extracurricular activity per season per child.

Parets says, “… when I saw that spark in their eyes, I knew. They had their one thing, and I wasn’t running myself ragged taking them to four activites a week. You have to find some balance; if that activity you’re taking them to is meaningful to them, then it works better for the whole family. They’re happy, you’re happy.”

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Do Teachers Assign Too Much Homework?

By Michael Gonchar

• Dec. 1, 2016

When you get home after school, how much homework will you do? Will it keep you up late at night? Will it cause stress in your family? Or do you have homework under control?

Do your teachers assign too much homework?

In “ As Students Return to School, Debate About the Amount of Homework Rages ,” Christine Hauser writes:

How much homework is enough? My daughter, Maya, who is entering second grade, was asked to complete homework six days a week during the summer. For a while, we tried gamely to keep up. But one day she turned to me and said, “I hate reading.” I put the assignment aside. That was my abrupt introduction to the debate over homework that is bubbling up as students across the United States head back to school. This month, Brandy Young, a second-grade teacher in Godley, Tex., let parents know on “Meet the Teacher” night that she had no plans to load up her students’ backpacks. “There will be no formally assigned homework this year,” Ms. Young wrote in a note that was widely shared on Facebook. “Rather, I ask that you spend your evenings doing things that are proven to correlate with student success. Eat dinner as a family, read together, play outside, and get your child to bed early.” Other conversations about homework are humming in town halls and online. Some school districts, including one near Phoenix, have taken steps to shorten the summer break, out of concern that too much is forgotten over the summer. But discussions on blogs like GreatSchools.org or StopHomework.com reveal a belief that the workload assigned to students may be too heavy.

When we asked students this same question in 2014, most commenters — but not all — voiced their opinion that homework was stressing them out. Dinah wrote:

In theory, homework seems like a good idea, just a little bit of looking over what was learned in class and answering a few questions to feel more comfortable with the material. In practice, it’s entirely different. Now I’m up till 11:30 p.m. some nights desperately trying to finish three colossal essays.

Eve agreed :

I’m an eighth grade student at an American school and my teachers pile on homework, so much where I am staying up until nearly three in the morning. I LOVE school and I truly do have a passion for learning, it’s just these extra worksheets are not teaching me anything.

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How to encourage students to do their homework.

Homework is one of those things you do because it needs to be done. But what happens when students struggle to complete assignments? Researchers have discovered that children who have difficulty completing homework tasks often lack executive function skills. Executive function refers to a set of abilities that allow people to plan, organize, prioritize, problem solve, and pay attention.

The good news is that there are ways to teach students the skills necessary to complete homework effectively. In this article, we explore the various factors that keep students from completing their homework, and how these factors can be dealt with.

What can you do if a student refuses to do work?

Most teachers have been in a situation where students refuse to do the work they are assigned. Whether it is because they don't understand the assignment or because they feel like they can’t do it, there are several things that teachers can do to help them learn to overcome obstacles.

For example, you can ask the student to explain the reasoning behind his or her refusing to do the work. If he or she is struggling because of personal reasons, you can allow the student to hand in the work later, or even assign an extra credit for the completed assignment. You can also provide additional instructions if needed.

How to get homework done quickly

What are the reasons why students don't do their homework?

There are different reasons why a student might not complete his homework but this problem is generally attributed to two primary factors:

Lack of understanding: Sometimes students don’t understand their homework assignments so they ignore them instead of reviewing what they learned in class.

Lack of motivation: Some students may not want to do the work because they are bored with the subject matter. Others may believe that they are incapable of completing the task. They may also dislike the way you teach the material. Whatever the reason, it is important to remember that every person learns differently so it’s important to find ways to motivate each student.

Tips to encourage students to do their homework

Getting kids to do their homework, after going through an entire school day, can be complicated. However, there are things that you can do to encourage students to complete their homework and elevate their learning experience .

Use a digital student planner

It can be difficult to get student learning practices right. However, there are things you can do to help your students optimize time management. A digital student planner makes it easier for today's Internet-savvy students to stay on top of their work.

With so much homework being assigned every day, it’s easy for students to get overwhelmed. Thankfully, with a planner, they can easily see what they have to do, by day and by week, and therefore dedicate time to each homework assignment. This helps improve grade levels and prevents late assignments.

Why are planners helpful for students?

Create a clear homework policy

With a clear homework policy, you communicate expectations consistently. This helps students understand what they must do to meet these expectations. You might say something like "I expect my students to turn in homework on Monday" or "I expect my students' homework to resolve math practice questions every night".

Break down tasks

One thing that works really well is breaking down large assignments into smaller ones . Instead of tackling a huge project all at once, try breaking it up into smaller pieces. For example, say you want to write a paper for English class. Instead of writing the whole thing at once, start by writing a rough draft of the introductory paragraph. Once you've finished that, move on to the body paragraphs. When you finish those, go back and add the conclusion.

Talk through problems

Students are often frustrated when they hit a roadblock while completing assignments so it’s important to find a way to help them overcome those challenges. The best way to do this is to simply talk to them about the issues they are facing and provide help when needed.

Provide adequate support

If you want your students to succeed, make sure that they have access to sufficient resources. For example, provide ample time for students to complete their homework. If you've got limited time, consider providing additional materials, such as worksheets or study guides. You can also leverage online tools to help them keep track of their progress. You might even want to consider integrating team-based learning into your homework policy to allow students to collaborate on project ideas. This will also encourage the development of listening skills and social skills .

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A planner can help students manage their time better and develop good study habits. Studyo developed a digital student planner that allows students to easily stay on top of the work they have to do. Whether it is a quick math paper, or a long-term project, they will know exactly what they need to do and by what date.

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“My Child Refuses to Do Homework” — How to Stop the Nightly Struggle Over Schoolwork

By janet lehman, msw.

For many parents, getting their kids to do their homework is a nightly struggle. Some kids refuse to do their homework. Others claim that they don’t have homework, but then the report card comes out, and you realize that their work was not being done.

So why is homework time so difficult? In my opinion, one of the major reasons is that it’s hard for kids to focus at home. Look at it this way: when your child is in school, they’re in a classroom where there aren’t a lot of distractions. The learning is structured and organized, and all the students are focusing on the same thing.

But when your child comes home, their brain clicks over to “free time” mode. In their mind, home is a place to relax, have a snack, listen to music, and play video games. Kids simply don’t view the home as the place to do schoolwork.

If the homework struggles you experience are part of a larger pattern of acting out behavior, then the child is resisting to get power over you. They intend to do what they want to do when they want to do it, and homework just becomes another battlefield. And, as on any other battlefield, parents can use tactics that succeed or tactics that fail.

Regardless of why your child won’t do their homework, know that fighting over it is a losing proposition for both of you. You will end up frustrated, angry, and exhausted, and your child will have found yet another way to push your buttons. And, even worse, they will wind up hating school and hating learning.

A major part of getting your child to do their homework lies in establishing a system so that your child comes to see that homework is just a regular part of home life. Once they accept that, you’ve already won half the battle. Accordingly, my first few tips are around setting up this system. If you get the system right, things tend to fall into place.

Put this system in place with your child at a time when things are calm and going well rather than during the heat of an argument. Tell your child that you’re going to try something different starting next week with homework that will make it go better for everyone. Then explain the system.

You’ll find that this system will make your life easier as a parent, will make you more effective as a parent, and will help your child to get the work done. And when your child gets their work done, they’re more likely to succeed, and nothing drives motivation more than success.

Structure the Evening for Homework

When your kids come home, there should be a structure and a schedule set up each night. I recommend that you write this up and post it on the refrigerator or in some central location in the house. Kids need to know that there is a time to eat, a time to do homework, and also that there is free time. And remember, free time starts after homework is done.

Homework time should be a quiet time in your whole house. Siblings shouldn’t be in the next room watching TV or playing video games. The whole idea is to eliminate distractions. The message to your child is, “You’re not going to do anything anyway, so you might as well do your homework.”

Even if your child doesn’t have homework some nights, homework time should still mean no phone and no electronics. Instead, your child can read a book or a magazine in their room or work on longer-term assignments. Consistently adhering to the homework time structure is important to instill the homework habit.

Start the Evening Homework Habit When Your Kids are Young

If your children are younger and they don’t get homework yet, set aside quiet time each evening where your child can read or do some type of learning. Doing so will help children understand that evening quiet and study time is a part of everyday home life, just like chores. This habit will pay off when the real homework begins.

Use a Public Place for Homework

For a lot of kids, sending them to their rooms to do their homework is a mistake. Many children need your presence to stay focused and disciplined. And they need to be away from the stuff in their rooms that can distract them.

You know your child best. If you think they’re not being productive in their room, then insist they work at the kitchen table or in some other room where you can monitor them and where there will be fewer distractions.

If they do homework in their room, the door to the room should be open, and you should check in from time to time. No text messaging, no fooling around. Take the phone and laptop away and eliminate electronics from the room during study time. In short, you want to get rid of all the temptations and distractions.

Give Breaks During Homework Time

Many kids get tired halfway through homework time, and that’s when they start acting up. If your child is doing an hour of homework, have them take a 5-minute break every half-hour so that they can get up, have a snack, and stretch their legs. But don’t allow electronics during the break—electronics are just too distracting.

Monitor the break and ensure that your child gets back to work promptly.

Be sure to encourage your child when they’re discouraged. It’s okay to say things like:

“I know it’s a drag, but think of this—when you get your work done, the rest of the night is yours.”

“Look, if you do your work all week, you’ll have the whole weekend to do what you want.”

Show your child empathy—how many of us truly enjoyed homework every night? It’s work, pure and simple. But your child will be encouraged when they begin to have success with their work.

Help Your Child Get Started With Their Homework

Some kids have a hard time getting assignments started. They may be overwhelmed or unsure where to begin. Or the work may seem too difficult.

There’s a concept I explain in The Total Transformation® child behavior program called hurdle help . If you have a child who has a hard time getting started, spend the first five minutes with them to get them over the first couple of hurdles. Perhaps help them with the first math problem or make sure they understand the assignment.

For many kids who are slow starters, hurdle help is very effective. This doesn’t mean you are doing their homework for them—this is simply extra help designed to get them going on their own.

Help Your Child Manage Long-Term Assignments

If your child has a big, long-term project, then you want to work with them to estimate how much time it’s going to take. Then your child has to work within that time frame. So if your child has a science project, help them manage and structure their time. For instance, if the project is due in 30 days, ask them:

“How much time are you going to spend on it each night?”

They might say, “15 minutes a night,” and you hold them to that.

Don’t assume that your child knows how to manage their time effectively. As adults, we sometimes take for granted the habits we have spent a lifetime developing and forget that our kids are not there yet.

Make Sunday Night a School Night

The way that I structure the weekend is that Sunday night is a school night, not Friday. So if your child has homework for the weekend, and as long as they’re done all their work for the past week, they get Friday and Saturday night off and can do their homework on Sunday night.

If there’s a project or something big to do over the weekend, then work with your child to budget their time. They may have to put some time in on Saturday or Sunday during the day. But other than that, your child should have the weekend off too, just like adults do.

The Weekend Doesn’t Begin Until Overdue Work Is Done

If your child has overdue homework, their weekend shouldn’t begin until those assignments are done. In other words, Friday night is a homework night if their week’s work is not complete.

Believe me, this is a highly effective consequence for kids because it creates a great incentive to get their work done. Indeed, each minute they’re doing homework is a minute they could be hanging out with friends or playing video games.

If you can hold to this rule once and deal with the complaining, then next week the homework will be done.

By the way, if they say they can’t do their homework because they didn’t bring their school books home, they should be grounded for the weekend. You can say:

“I don’t want to hear that you can’t do it because you don’t have your books. You’d better call around and find a friend who you can borrow them from. Otherwise, you’ll be staying in this weekend.”

Make Homework a Higher Priority Than Activities

Kids are involved in a lot of after school activities these days. I understand that. But my priority has always been “homework comes first.”

In my opinion, if the homework isn’t done on Monday, then your child shouldn’t go to football on Tuesday. It’s fine if he misses a practice or two. You can say:

“Here’s the deal. We’re not going to football today. You need to get your work done first.”

If your child says, “Well, if I miss a practice, I’m going to get thrown off the team,” You can say:

“Well, then make sure your work is complete. Otherwise, you’re not going to practice. That’s all there is to it.”

I personally don’t put football, soccer, or any other extracurricular activities above homework and home responsibilities. I don’t believe parents should be going from soccer to karate to basketball with their kids while homework and school responsibilities are being neglected.

Use Rewards for Schoolwork, Not Bribes

Most kids get personal satisfaction out of getting good grades and completing their work, and that’s what we’re aiming for. Nevertheless, it’s important to reinforce positive behavior, and that may mean offering an incentive for getting good grades. For instance, my son knew that he would get a certain reward for his performance if he got all B’s or above. The reward was an incentive to do well.

One of the shortcuts we take as parents is to bribe our kids rather than rewarding them for performance. It can be a subtle difference. A reward is something that is given after an achievement. A bribe is something you give your child after negotiating with them over something that is already a responsibility.

If you bribe your child to do their homework or to do anything else that is an expected responsibility, then your child will come to expect something extra just for behaving appropriately. Bribes undermine your parental authority as kids learn that they can get things from you by threatening bad behavior. Bribes put your child in charge of you.

The appropriate parental response to not meeting a responsibility is a consequence, not a bribe. A bribe says, “If you do your homework, I will extend your curfew by an hour.” In contrast, a consequence says, “If you don’t do your homework, you’re grounded until it’s finished.” Never bribe your kids to do what they’re expected to do.

Use Effective Consequences

When giving consequences, be sure they’re effective consequences. What makes an effective consequence? An effective consequence motivates your child to good behavior. They put you back in control and teach your child how to problem-solve, giving your child the skills needed to be successful.

An effective consequence looks like this:

“If you fall below a B average, then you can no longer study in your room and must study at the kitchen table until you get your average back to a B.”

For the child who prefers to study in their room, this is an effective consequence.

Another effective consequence would be the following:

“If you choose not to study during the scheduled time, you will lose your electronics for the night. Tomorrow, you’ll get another chance to use them.”

And the next day, your child gets to try again to earn the privilege of electronics. Short-term consequences like this are very effective. Just don’t take away this privilege for more than a day as your child will have no incentive to do better the next time.

For more on consequences, read the article on how to give effective consequences to your child .

Be Prepared to Let Your Child Fail

Failure should be an option, and sometimes you just have to let your child fail . Parents often do their kids a disservice when they shield them from the consequences of their actions. If your child chooses not to study enough and they get a failing grade, that’s the natural consequence for their behavior. And they should experience the discomfort that results from their behavior.

Let me be clear. If you interfere and try to get your child’s teacher to change their grade, your child will learn the wrong lesson. Your child will learn that if they screw up enough, Mom and Dad will take care of them. And they don’t learn their math or science or whatever it is they failed.

To be sure, failing is a hard lesson, but it’s the right lesson when your child fails. And it’s not the end of the world. In fact, for many kids, it’s what turns them around.

Don’t Fight with Your Child Over Homework

Don’t get sucked into arguments with your child about homework. Make it very clear that if they don’t do their homework, then the next part of their night does not begin. Keep discussions simple. Say to your child:

“Right now is homework time. The sooner you get it done, the sooner you can have free time.”

Say this in a supportive way with a smile on your face. Again, it’s important not to get sucked into fights with your child. Remember, you don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. If your child refuses to do his or her work, then calmly give the consequence that you established for not doing homework.

Also, trying to convince your child that grades are important is a losing battle. You can’t make your child take school as seriously as you do. The truth is, they don’t typically think that way. To get your child to do homework, focus on their behavior, not their motivation. Rather than giving a lecture, just maintain the system that enables them to get their work done. Often, the motivation comes after the child has had a taste of success, and this system sets them up for that success.

Stay Calm When Helping Your Child With Their Homework

It’s important to be calm when helping your child with their homework. Don’t argue about the right answer for the math problem or the right way to do the geography quiz. If you get frustrated and start yelling and screaming at your child, this sets a negative tone and won’t help them get the work done. It’s better to walk away than it is to engage in an argument, even when you’re just trying to be helpful.

For couples, it may be that one of you is more patient and acceptable to your child. Let that person take on the homework monitoring responsibilities. And don’t take it personally if it isn’t you.

Remember, if you can’t stay calm when helping your child, or if you find that your help is making the situation worse, then it’s better not to help at all. Find someone else or talk to the teacher about how your child can get the help they need. And try not to blame your child for the frustration that you feel.

It’s Your Child’s Homework, Not Yours

Remember that your child is doing the homework as a school assignment. The teacher will ultimately be the judge of how good or bad, correct or incorrect the work is. You’re not responsible for the work itself; your job is to guide your child. You can always make suggestions, but ultimately it’s your child’s job to do their assignments. And it’s the teacher’s job to grade them.

Know the Teachers and the Assignments

Build good relationships with your child’s teachers. Meet with the teachers at the beginning of the school year and stay in touch as the year progresses. Your relationships with your child’s teachers will pay off if your child begins to have problems.

And if your child does have problems, then communicate with their teachers weekly. If they’re not handing in their work on time, ask the teachers to send you any assignments that they didn’t get done each week. Many schools have assignments available online, which is a big help for parents. Just don’t rely on your child to give you accurate information. Find out for yourself.

The bottom line is that you want to hold your child accountable for doing their work, and you can only do that if you know what the work is. If you keep yourself informed, then you won’t be surprised when report cards come out.

Work with your child on a system to keep track of assignments. I recommend an old-fashioned paper calendar simply because we already have too many distracting electronics in our lives—experiment and use what works best for your child.

Finally, try to see your child’s teachers as your allies. In my experience, most teachers are dedicated and caring, but I realize that this isn’t always the case. So, for your child’s sake, do your best to find a way to work with their teachers.

If You Think Your Child Might Have a Learning Disability

Kids are expected to do some difficult work, and your child may struggle. If your child is having an especially hard time, talk with their teacher. Ask if it’s typical for your child to be struggling in this area.

In some cases, the teacher may recommend testing to see if your child has a learning disability. While this can be hard to hear as a parent, it’s important to find out so that you can make the necessary adjustments.

If it turns out that your child does have a learning disability, then you want to get an Individualized Educational Plan (IEP) set up with the school.

Most kids don’t enjoy homework, and for some, it will always be a struggle. Our children all have different strengths and abilities, and while some may never be excellent students, they might be great workers, talented artists, or thoughtful builders.

I have to admit that dealing with my son’s homework was one of my least favorite experiences as a parent. It was overwhelming at times. Often, I just wasn’t equipped to offer the help he needed.

Our son struggled with a learning disability, which made the work feel unending at times. My husband James was much better at helping him, so he took on this responsibility. But even with this division of labor, we had to make adjustments to our schedules, our lives, and our expectations to make sure our son did his homework as expected.

Life would be easier if all children were self-motivated students who came home, sat down, and dug into their homework without being asked. This is hardly the case, though. Therefore, you need to set up a system that is right for your child, and it’s going to be easier for some kids than for others.

We’re trying to raise our kids to be responsible and accountable for their homework. And we’re trying to avoid fighting with them over it every night. When I had parents in my office, I would take these concepts and show them how they could make it work for their families in their own homes. The families I worked with were able to turn the nightly homework struggle around successfully time and time again.

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About Janet Lehman, MSW

Janet Lehman, MSW, has worked with troubled children and teens for over 30 years. A veteran social worker, she specializes in child behavior issues — ranging from anger management and oppositional defiance to more serious criminal behavior in teens. She is co-creator of The Total Transformation® Program , The Complete Guide To Consequences™ , Getting Through To Your Child™ , and Two Parents One Plan™ .

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Hello, my grandson recently moved with me from another state. He is currently in 8th grade (but should be in 9th). He basically failed the last 2 years and was promoted. I would say he is at a 6th grade level. It's a daily fight with him to do his homework. He won't even try. I know a lot of this is because no one has ever made him do his homework before. I thought he would just have to get in a routine of doing it. He's been in school for a month now and its a fight every single day after school. I have lost all the patience I had. I am tired of being a broken record and being the "bad guy". I don't want to give up on him and send him back to his mom, where I know he will never graduate. I have made so many sacrifices to get him here, but I am literally at my wits end with this. I knew it wasn't going to be easy but I didn't think it was going to be this hard.

My rule is homework after school. If he comes home and does his homework after school, it was easier for him to complete. That lasted a week and a half. Now, he just sits there and does nothing. Does anyone have any suggestions? I couldn't live with myself if I sent him back and he became nothing but a drop out. I know I am not one to have patience, and I am trying but at the same time, I am almost over it. I don't like going to bed crying and knowing that he is crying too. I am open to all suggestions. Please and thank you.

I'm so sorry you are facing these struggles with your grandson. We here from many caregivers in similar situations, so you're not alone in your frustration. We have several articles that offer helpful tips for managing these homework struggles, which can be found here: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article-categories/child-behavior-problems/school-homework/

We appreciate you reaching out and wish you all the best moving forward. Be sure to check back and let us know how things are going.

Jessicar Thank you for this article and strategies. I echo many of the frustrations expressed by other parents here, including my opinion (as an educator) that homework should not exist. I agree that teachers and parents are in a struggle about which adult is responsible for supporting the child in getting More homework done. The best thing for my son was a free "homework club" in fourth and fifth grade where a teacher monitored completion of homework. He has nothing like this in middle school so far. Where I really disagree with the article is about extracurricular activities. Kids need physical activity through sports! They need enrichment beyond academics through the arts, theater, music. Many families send their children to religious, language, and/or cultural programs after school. If I sat in school all day, I'd want to move my body and interact with others too. The solution is not removing extracurricular activities that are healthy or motivating or valued. The solution is for schools to limit homework. Given that there is still homework as a reality--I'd like advice on when to have child do homework AFTER sports or extracurricular activity. When is the best time for homework if the goal is to go to bed on time (in my house in bed around 9 pm)? Between extracurricular and dinner--when the kid is tired? After dinner? My child is in 7th grade and I still can't figure it out. What do others do/think?

I found school to be extremely boring, as a teen. Looking back I realize that I hadn't found the work challenging enough. Personally, I struggled with this all through high school. I was completely disinterested in school, as a result.

I noticed that there wasn't a section addressing situations where children, who are motivated by challenges, do poorly as a result of boredom.

I enjoy reading many of the articles; even those which don't necessarily apply to my current situations with my child. One never knows what obstacles or challenges one may come across. Thank you

Here's what I know. Correcting our children when their behavior is displeasing is what most parents focus on. Without a lot of explanation I'm going to try to get you to change your focus. All children have 4 emotional needs:

1. A sense of belonging

2. A sense of personal power

3. To be heard and understood

4. Limits and boundaries

Rather than focus on your child's behavior, focus on meeting these needs. Meet the needs, change the behavior. There a 25 ways to meet these needs. One of the most effective is to spend regular one-on-one time with your child doing what your child wants to do. How do you spell love? T-I-M-E. It seems counter-intuitive, but just try it for a week. Do this for 1/2 hour every day for a week. See what happens.

Frustrated Confused Parent, I went through similar challenges with my son when he was in high school. As a grade school student his grades were always B and higher. The changes began when his mother and I separated; my son was 12yo. Prior to our separation I was the one who maintained, and enforced the habit of completing his assignments before extracurricular activities could be enjoyed. His mother never felt she had the patience or intelligence to assist him with his homework assignments and upon our separation she completely ignored his school work. Although he continued to follow the structure I had established through grade school, he soon began to realize that no one was showing interest any longer and, thus, began shirking school related responsibilities. My son and I were, and still are, close. I am certain that the separation likely had some affect on him, but it was more than that. He was reaching his teens and becoming more self-aware. Friends began to play a more integral and influential part in his life. Unfortunately my son's grades began slipping as he reached his early teens. For me, this was extremely frustrating since I was aware of how intelligent he was and of what he was capable. After many aggravating, lengthy, heated, and unyielding conversations with his mother about maintaining the structure established through grade school, it became clear she was incapable or simply unwilling. Essentially, he was on his own. Of course I would do whatever I could to help. For starters, I facilitated a transfer to a Charter School, realizing that he needed more individualized attention than that which a public school could provide. It seemed as though he was getting 'lost in the shuffle'.

Unfortunately the damage had already been done. After two years under his mother's lack of tutelage my son had developed some poor habits.

He struggled with maintaining good grades throughout his high school career. By 'maintaining good grades' I mean that he would take a grading of 45 in math and bring it to a 70 within three weeks of the end of a marking period. He ALWAYS passed, though. He would somehow get his grades to or even above passing by the end of the period. As I began to see this, I began to have more faith knowing that when the going got tough he would step up and take charge. It also indicated that he did well with what might perceive as an impossible goal. So, I started to have faith that he'd find his way.

He has since graduated, he has a good-paying job, and he is beginning school to become an electrician within the next month or so. In two weeks he moves into his own apartment, also. He's never done drugs, never drank alcohol, and never started smoking cigarettes. All of which I have done as a teen and well into my adult years. I am in recovery. My son is aware of my own struggles. Most importantly, I believe, is that he has a complete understanding that we all struggle in our own ways. Working through the difficulties, challenges, and obstacles are what makes us stronger and it's our compassion for others, and ourselves, which help us grow into decent adults.

I came to realize that the 'grades' he received in school had nothing to do with the amazing adult he's become; it was literally everything else.

NanaRound2 My 6 year old grandson has just taken 2 hours to write a list and write 3 sentences. He thinks if the words were shorter it wouldn't take so long. Already went through this with his dad. I celebrated more than he did when he graduated. Can't drag More another kid through school. Losing my mind and like the previous comment have tried EVERYTHING.

Yeah -been there, done that. Doesn't work. At least not for my child. I've read every *actual* parenting book out there ( You know, the books publishes by Harvard & Stanford professors who've been studying parenting and child psychology for the past 30 years?) ... and you're all missing something - because I've tried it all.

My kid DGAF. This was almost painful to read. "oh, yup - tried that one. That one too. Oh, hey - I've tried that as well."

This is so frustrating; tell me something I haven't already tried 50 times.

Psych Fan I'm with you my sophomore son DGAF . I tried so much stuff even set time stuff and he just doesn't go get his work out. He's 5'9 so I am 5'1 and I can't move him to do stuff . All he does is debate with me that More Grades really don't matter that he's like I'm just going to get D's because I'm not going to care to do better because I do not like school. He doesn't understand why I don't approve of D grades because I know he has better potential but he's like D grades I will pass and get my diploma .

The first thing on the list is to try and stay calm. While doing homework with my children I'm usually very calm. When I do get frustrated I'll leave the room for a moment, wash my face, and take a few deep breaths until I calm down. Or I'll make hot chocolate to help calm my nerves. It's not a perfect system, but what is?

Number two is to set clear expectations around homework time and responsibilities. We have a standard homework time at our house, with a timer and everything. If our kids meet the homework time goal they'll be rewarded later in the evening with family time. Each of our kids know their roles and responsibilities in the house whether the work gets done before dinner or not.

Number three is a relationship with the teachers, each of whom e-mail us, some two or three times a day. Contact with them has never been better. They're teachers are all pretty awesome too.

Number Four, play the parental role most useful to your child...I have three kids. One needs no help at all, one needs minor help and advisement, while the third requires constant supervision or their e-mail might 'accidentally' open up. This we've provided through double teaming. One parent works with them until the other gets home, then they switch while the other goes to make dinner.

Five, keep activities similar with all your kids. We all live on the same schedule, if one of them finishes homework early they get the reward of extra quiet reading time-my kids are ALL book worms.

Six, Set up a structured time and place for homework. Done. Homework table with a supplies basket right in the middle of the room. Big enough for all of them to work at and then some, it's an octagonal table which my husband built. I also always have their 'homework snacks' waiting for them when they get home, and I usually try to make it healthy-even if they don't realize it.

Seven, start early. My kids have been doing 'homework' with me since they were babies, and (as I pointed out to them yesterday) they loved it. We'd learn about cooking, dinosaurs, amphibians, insects, math, English, chemistry, even the periodic table came up. We'd do work pages every day and they'd love it.

Eight, hurdle help, works in area's like math, but not so much with history or English when the problems aren't as straight forward. But we do use this method where it applies.

Nine, choose the best person for the job. I'm best at English and my husband at math. When I get stuck on math I know who to go to, and I'll even study in my spare time to get better at it so I can be more useful in case he has to work late. That being said, we both devote a lot of our time to helping our kids with their homework.

Ten, show empathy and support. Done, not only can I relate to my kids, but I've pointed out that not getting their work done will make them feel bad bad enough, and that that's why we should work on getting it done together, so they have something to be proud of.

Use positive reinforcement and incentives. :) There was this one time I sat my son down at a table with a work book about 400 pages long. He was young, not even in school yet. Next to the book I placed a giant bag of M&Ms. I told him for every page he got done, he could have one m&m. About ten minutes later he finished the workbook and grinned up at me. When I found out he'd finished the book, I quickly checked it to see if it was done well, and then pushed the bag of M&M's towards him and told him he could just have it...Now they get rewarded in video games and computer time...

It seems that according to this article I'm doing everything right...So why is my child still struggling with homework/classwork? They've literally just refused to do it. Have seriously just sat in their chair without saying a word and stared at the table, or desk, or screen- as the majority of work is now done on computers...I'll sit with them, ask them if they need help, try to help them with problems. They will tell me the right answer to the questions being asked and then refuse to write it down. I feel like I've done everything I can as a parent to help them, but despite all my efforts, it isn't working. So...when all of these things fail, when a parent has done everything right, and there is nothing more they can do short of taking the pen or pencil into their own hands and doing it themselves, (but that would be cheating their child out of an education) what then should the parents do?

When our kids don't get their homework done before dinner, they're sent down the hall where it's quiet so they can finish it at the desk there, while the other kids have family time. They are told to come and get us if they really need help after that. But at this point it's like ostracizing our child for not doing homework.

I agree with most of what's on this page, and our family lifestyle reflects that, but I will disagree with one thing it said. It is our job to help our kids and be supportive of them yes, to nurture them and help them get the skills they need to take care of themselves and their home when they're older...but it is not our job to do the teachers work for them, they get paid for that. Some days it seems like that's what's expected of parents. Some even send home classwork if the kids don't finish it in class. Which means the child now has even more work to do on top of their homework. Though I understand that the teachers want the child to finish the lesson, and were the homework not a factor I probably wouldn't mind it as much. I don't even mind them sending home study guides to help kids before tests (Which is what homework was originally) but to send home overwhelming piles of work each night for parents to help kids with, (Each child with different homework so that parents need to bounce from history, to math to English) it's unreasonable. When teachers send home homework, they're dictating what the parents can do with the little time they have with their child. Which is wrong. We once had to cancel a trip to a science museum because our child had too much homework to finish and there was no way to make it in time and get their homework done. They could have had an amazing educational experience which would overall help them get excited about learning with new and fun tactile experiences, but their schedule (and therefore our schedule) was being dictated by the teacher while they weren't even in class. Of course I try not to talk bad about homework in front of my children, because that would make it even more difficult to get them to do it. But children NEED family time, they NEED to be kids. To be allowed to get away from their work and be themselves, to go outside and play with their friends, or even go out to dinner once in a while with their parents. Homework has made it difficult to grow a relationship with our children beyond the confines of what the teachers are dictating. It's violating in some ways and frustrating in others. It's grown into this monstrous thing which it was never meant to become, and the funny part about it is that most studies done on it show that schools who don't have homework have higher test scores and graduation rates. Not to mention better mental health rates. Studies also show, that after a child is taught something, they'll only really learn it after a good nights sleep, and that no amount of homework will change that. Sleep is what our bodies need to absorb important information we learn throughout the day, so staying up late with homework might even be harmful to a child's education...

Sorry I guess that turned into a bit of a rant...In the end I was hoping to find something useful in this article, something I hadn't tried that might work, but I've done it all, and will probably continue to do all of it in hopes that consistency might be the key...It's just that even after years of already doing All of this consistently, it's still not working. It's as if my child has made a conscious decision Not to work. He's not unintelligent, he understands it, he's even been tested and found to have an above average ability to learn. He just not doing it..So what now? What more can I do to actually inspire him to do the work?

AshumSmashum Out of all of this, most of which I've read and tried a billion times, your comment hit deeper. My son scores in the 99% on tests but cannot sit down and do the simplest homework. He does have autism and adhd so when he freezes up on homework, despite More knowing it, I'm lost at how to help him get it done. He knows the work so why does he need to show it with 20 math problems after school that take forever to complete one? (whatever honors algebra stuff he's in, I was lucky to learn division lol) He has a high IQ and excels in all subjects and yet is being tutored, so far, in English just to get the work done. I'm so done with the emotional toll it takes on me and him at home. Nobody wants to go to work for 8 hours and come home and do the same for another 5 so why do we think our kids want to come home and do more classwork? I'm so appreciative of your comment!

JC Hi Barb, thank you for bringing this up! My son sounds a lot like you...and he really wants to get good grades and go to an Ivy League school. What could someone do to help an 8th grader in the moment of struggle, while making sure they don't get more More anxious from falling behind for the rest of the year?

Tb Hi Barb, I'm the parent of an 8th grader and I want to thank you for the comment you left here. You helped me look at the deeper issues and I really appreciate that. I'm going to approach the conversation with my son differently, thanks to you. Thank More you!

My 11 year old daughter, Alice, has always helped her 7 year old sister, Chole, with homework. But just recently Alice has been giving Chole the wrong answers. We have been trying to get her to give Chole the correct answers

but she always yells at us. She has a baby sister 2 months named Ray and ever since Ray was born she has been giving Chole wrong answers. I once overheard her and Kevin, my husband, talking about how she felt left out. She came and talked to me and said exactly what she had told Kevin. She also told me she has been getting bad grades and doesn't get her homework. Me and Alice talked and she said "All the cool New York girls get straight A's and ever since I started getting D's and F's they said I wasn't cool anymore." We started having her grandparents come over and she would yell, hit, scream, and talk back to them. She is a great student but she spends all of her time on her phone. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and even at school she is on her phone. All I'm asking is that 1. How do I make her stop screaming, yelling, hitting, and back talking? 2. How do I make her feel cool and get A's again?and 3. How do I get her off her phone?

sounds like you have a number of concerns around your daughter’s behavior, and

it certainly can feel overwhelming. We would suggest https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/its-never-too-late-7-ways-to-start-parenting-more-effectively/ and focusing on just one or two of the most serious, to get

started. Behaviors like verbal or physical abuse would be of top priority,

while behaviors like https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-walk-away-from-a-fight-with-your-child-why-its-harder-than-you-think/ we would recommend ignoring, and not giving it any power or control.

Empowering Parents author Sara Bean offers some great insight into the reason

for poor child behavior in her article, https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/the-surprising-reason-for-bad-child-behavior-i-cant-solve-problems/.It sounds like your daughter is struggling to

find more effective ways to solve the problems she is facing, and the result is

the acting out behavior. Keep in mind, you can’t make your daughter do anything, but what you can do is help her to

learn better tools to solve whatever problems may come her way. Best of luck to

you and your family as you continue to work on this.

Emma Reed Alice also swears at school and she swears to teachers. Please we have tried everything, even her sister at age 18. What have we done wrong?

Being away from loved ones when they are struggling can be

distressing. It may help to know that it’s not unusual to see changes in

behavior as kids move from the tweens into adolescence, as Janet Lehman

explains in the article https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/adolescent-behavior-changes-is-your-child-embarrassed-by-you/. Normally responsible

kids can start to push back against meeting expectations and disrespect towards

parents and other authority figures can become quite common. The behavior you

describe isn’t OK; it is normal though. I can hear how much you want to help

your daughter and granddaughter

work through these challenges. If your daughter is open to it, you could share

some Empowering Parents articles with her, such as the one above and this one, https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/my-childs-behavior-is-so-bad-where-do-i-begin-how-to-coach-your-child-forward/.

We appreciate you writing in. Best of luck to you and your family moving

forward. Take care.

mphyvr Thanks for all these "strategies", they might work for some parents, but quite simplistic and just plain old common sense for more defiant kids... Thanks anyways and hope this article helps many.

Psych Fan I'm a mom of a sophomore he's also a swearing boy and will have quite a tantrum even with consequences of take away all he does is sleep. He doesn't like school says school is a waste of time and that grades won't matter in his adulthood . He says More it over n over about how schooling won't help him in the future as I go it will help you do good on a ACT and SAT he is like getting good scores on those are only good if your going to college. He also is like jobs won't look at my grades . I tell him homework teaches him responsibility once a job sees your amount of effort in school your going to have a heck of time getting hired. I even ask him how is he going to succeed to work real well at a job when he doesn't work hard at school he goes I don't need to work hard at school but I will need to work hard at a job.

dcastillo68 If it was only this simple, but, in reality it is not.  Middle school syndrome is the worst.  Kids don't want to be labeled as nerds so they do everything to try to fail.  I went through that with my first born, and now again with my youngest.  It is More very frustrating when I was the total opposite when I was growing up.  I cared about my grades an I took it for granted thinking they will feel the same way.  Now seeing how they are happy with just getting by is really frustrating to me because I am such an over achiever.  They didn't even get an ounce of this.  Very very frustrating.  And I wish I have never invited video games to this household.  That is all they want to do.  I keep using this an incentive to bring them back on track, but as soon as I give them their games back, they are back to their old habits.  Sorry, but I can't wait until they are finished with school and hopefully moving out of state to hopefully a college career.  I may change my mind later, but at the moment, this is just how I feel.  It is very hard too when you don't get any help.  I find today's teacher to be lazy and pushing on more responsibility to the parents.  Who has time to do a full day's of work, only to do additional work at home?  okay, enough venting.

@frustrated single dad Diane Lewis Hi there - I have a son adopted out of foster care.  He is 6 1/2 and has been in 5 homes.  He is totally the same!  They learn this behavior and are incredibly manipulative.  They are so insanely smart.  I worry about exactly the same thing.  They turn on and off the behavior depending on who they are with and what they want.

We did Parent Child Interactive Therapy (PCIT) at the Mailman Center (Jackson Hospital Miami).  It made a huge difference in the short-term.  They basically taught us to be full-time behavioral therapists with my son.  The effects wore off after a few months as my son adapted and found ways to circumvent the consequences techniques taught to us.  He is like the Borg!  I am going back to get more ideas on how to adapt and change and stay one step ahead of my son.  The gals there are really smart!

So, that being said - we have to be Jean Luc Picard and constantly change and adapt and outsmart them - just like changing the phasers on a laser gun!  It is bloody hard work.  And, harder the older they get -

eg.  He drops like a dead weight - throws his book bag and will not get in the car to go to school - response - next morning I headed it off by calling out to the kids "LAST ONE IN THE CAR IS A ROTTEN EGG!"  This has worked for 2 days now.  

Wont do homework 2 nights ago - response - "ooh I like doing word puzzles - Im going to do them and win" - this worked one night but not the next - he just then just left me to do his work - so I have told his teacher that there will be no school party for Alex next week unless he gets his homework finished - we will see if this works.....

It is totally exhausting and you have to be on your A game all the time.  Im telling you this but - I have to tell myself this too.  We have to stay really fit (like cross fit) and work out like a marine.  We have to be very disciplined with ourselves - a healthy body is a healthy mind - we cannot let up at all.  We have to stay calm at all times (again self discipline).  

Im always looking for concrete reactions to situations with my son.  Like I said - the entire day goes on like this with everything except what he wants to do.  Wont get dressed in the morning - put out his clothes in dining room where there are no distractions or toys - tell him that if he gets dressed and ready for school quickly - he can spend the left over time on the trampoline.  That worked this morning.

STAY STRONG MY BROTHER IN ARMS!!!  If you can get into a PCIT program - do it.

Love to you - R

My child comes home and says he doesn't have homework, does something easy to make it look like he's doing his homework, or says he did it during free time in class.  How do you combat this without going to the school everyday?  Neither my husband nor I can do More this because of work, and the we asked the teacher's if it was possible to send us the assignments via email or let us come pick them up once a week with no cooperation.  He is a very smart kid and gets "A's' on the work he does, but he is failing all of his core classes because he won't do homework.

@atmywitsend  , my child is the same way.  I'm at my wits end.  I feel like I'm a failure as a parent because I thought I taught my smart kid to succeed - and instead she's lying to me.

Psych Fan NinaMays I'm with the same feelings as my son can be above a C student but he choose to go oh I rather just get F's on this work than to actually get at least a B or A on these many assignments.. I ask him why he chooses F's More in many assignments when he could get a grade to bring his grades up and me telling me he's not being his full potential as by making him not do his work how can I truly believe he's going to be successful and he's like I have big brains . Then I'm like why not show me by doing your school work he goes I don't need do that and I show you of my big brains by telling you school isn't important. Telling me I am brainwashed. He is a sophomore in high school.

FRUSTRATED PARENT NinaMays This is my reality too - "relationship" with teachers is difficult when they won't co-operate with homework expectations, or follow up email - the schools complain that kids are on the internet - yet its them providing wifi passwords - so kids are playing in class - lying about More homework - and since I'm not in the class, I have no idea until report cards surface.

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My GF always has me do her her College homework.

So my Gf and I are both 19 and have been dating for 2 years. She goes to a college in town and I am awaiting enlistment in the military. This only used to happen once in a while when we were in High School but now that she's in college I've written 4/5 papers for her. At first I didn't mind because I relish the idea of being able to do something she needs done but today she told she needs me to write a 5 page paper on a subject I know nothing about that she has to submit online in only a few hours.

My question is: do I have a right to be upset, and if I do how can I tell her that this is not okay without making it seem like I just dont want to do it?

Edit: Thinking back maybe always wasn't the best word choice for the title so lets bak up and replace "always" with "occasionally" sorry about that ok carry on.

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Chủ đề / Chương

Unit 9 : A First- Aid course

• trắc nghiệm
• bài tập sgk

• Hoàng Khải Anh

1. She said to me " Do you do your homework right after school?"

She asked me...............................................................................................

2. The Viet Namese people celebrate Tet holiday around January and February .

The Tet holiday..............................................................................................

3. It is a festival in which participants have to make a fire.

It is a ...........................................................................................................

1. I didn’t know how I can play the game.

I din’t know how ……………………………………………………………..

• _silverlining CTVVIP

She asked me... ....if I did my homework right after school.................. ......................................................................

The Tet holiday...... .is celebrated by the Vietnamese people around January and February

.................... ...................................................................

3. It is a festival in which participants have to make fire.

It is a fire-making festival.

....... ....................................................................................................

I din’t know how …………… to play the game.

………………………………………………..

• Nguyễn Ngọc Anh Tú

I. Choose the word or phrase that needs correcting :

1. They are working at weekends so as to not delay the project.

2. Would you like coming and stay with us while you are in the town ?

3. Mary enjoys to be able to meet a lot of interesting people during her vacation.

4. Hoa helps Mrs. Jones by her luggage.

5. OK. I will give it to him when I will see him tomorrow afternoon.

6. John didn’t write to me since he came back to his country.

7. She learned English so that she can study in the United States.

8. Today we go on an eight-hours tour around the valley.

II. Use the correct preposition :

1. Don’t overheat the victim ___________ blankets or coats.

2. Put the affected part __________ under a running cold tap if possible.

3. She fell ________ her bike and hit her head _________ the road.

4. What do you know __________ a first-aid course ? Please tell me what to know.

5. The rescue team tried to take them out _________ the fire.

6. Will you inform your classmate _________ the change _________ schedule ?

7. You shouldn’t take _________ warm clothes. It starts to be colder than before.

8. Will you come _________ to my place _________ the weekend ?

9. The police asked me to phone __________ an ambulance.

10. You had better put pressure _________ the wound.

11. Ngo Si Lien lane is ___________ Quang Trung street and Tran Hung Dao street.

12. After the accident, I spent six months _________ crutches.

13. How did we make contact _________ you ?

14. The ambulance will be here ________ about 10 minutes.

15. Thanks __________ your praise. It really cheers me ________.

III. Use the correct tense or form of the verb in parentheses :

1. I am sorry what (happen) _________________ last week.

2. He always (travel) _______________ to work by motorbike.

3. Many people (attend) _________________ the meeting tomorrow night.

4. She (be) ______________ here since Christmas.

5. When we (come) _____________ to the party last night, many people (dance) _______________.

6. The sea (cover) ______________ most of the world’s surface.

7. You must (meet) ________________ before.

8. She’ll come and visit her old grandparents before she (leave) _____________ here.

9. John moved into a new flat so that he could (perfect) _______________ his English.

10. My father (turn) ________________ on the television so that he could see the news.

11. You will be late if you (not hurry) ___________________.

12. What time (your train / leave) __________________________ tomorrow ?

13. It’s a secret between them. He promises he (not tell) ________________ anybody.

14. “Did you phone Kate ?” – Oh no. I forgot. I (phone) ________________ her now.

15. I (get up) _________________ early yesterday so as to catch the first bus.

16. Who (look after) ________________ the children when your sister (be) ____________ away ?

17. He promised he (leave) _______________ before the sun (rise) _______________.

18. When I (see) _______________ Mr. Pike tomorrow, I (give) ______________ him your message.

19. They (move) _______________ to their new house at Christmas last year.

20. Thanks for (let) _____________ me (borrow) _____________ your camera. I (bring) _____________ it back to you after I (return) ________________ from the library.

IV. Use the correct form of the word in parentheses :

1. Always wear a safe helmet so as to _______________ the danger of head ______________. (minimum / injure)

2. Oh no ! My finger is _________________ quite badly. (blood)

3. The ________________ of water caused the dam to burst. (press)

4. They want ___________________ answer. (immediately)

5. She is waiting ________________ before his mother’s room. (anxiety)

6. My friend who has had a dog bite needs an anti-tetanus _________________. (inject)

7. Come by the fire. You must be ________________ to the bone. (chill)

8. Her speedy _________________ after the operation amazed all the nurses and doctors. (revive)

9. Make sure that the needles are ________________. (sterile)

10. He was _______________ for many days after the fainting. (consciousness)

11. Most ______________ are written in English. (instruct)

12. The _____________ player was carried out of the football ground on a ______________. (injury / stretch)

13. The man who had an accident was rushed to the _______________ room in an ambulance. (emergence)

14. Doctors have succeeded in finding a better ______________ for rabies. (treat)

15. He felt _______________ when listening to the _____________ lecture. (sleep / bore)

V. Reading comprehension :

a. Choose the best answer and check True or False :

This is the emergency room in a large hospital. A paramedic is wheeling a (1) ___________ on a stretcher into the (2) ____________ room where the doctor is waiting to treat a patient. The patient doesn’t look well. His head is (3) ____________ and his eyes are closed.

A nurse is (4) __________ an empty wheelchair towards the exit. She is probably taking it to a patient in the ambulance.

The eye (5) ___________ on the wall is used to check people’s (6) ___________. The chart consists of about 28 letters ranging in size from about 5 centimeters in (7) __________ at the top of the chart to about 1 centimeter at the (8) _________.

Choose the best answer

1. A. doctor B. patient C. nurse D. suitcase

2. A. emergency B. class C. meeting D. waiting

3. A. broken B. bandaged C. cleaned D. washed

4. A. pulling B. holding C. pushing D. cleaning

5. A. notice B. book C. chart D. board

6. A. head B. arm C. body D. eyesight

7. A. height B. high C. tall D. B & C are correct

8. A. below B. bottom C. between D. back

Check True or False

1. A paramedic is wheeling a patient on a stretcher into the emergency room.

2. A nurse is pushing an empty wheelchair towards the emergency room.

3. A doctor is trying to weigh a crying baby on the scale.

4. Shy is trying to stop her child from crying.

b. Choose the best answer :

You are cutting something and you accidentally (1) _________ your finger. A little blood begins to come out. Your finger

will bleed for a few minutes, but you will not lose (2) _________ blood if the cut is small. Losing a little blood is not serious because your body has about four and three-fourths liters of blood.

(3) __________ is the most important part f body’s transportation system. It transports oxygen, blood, water and (4)

_________ substances. It takes away waste products such as carbon dioxide as well.

Human blood, like all living things, has cells. There are three kinds of blood cells : red, white and platelets. Red blood cells carry oxygen. White blood cells carry oxygen. White blood cells fight germs and therefore give (5) ________ to the body. Platelets help your blood to clot, which helps stop (6) __________.

All three kinds of blood cells float in the liquid part of blood, (7) ____________ is called plasma. Plasma is about ninety percent water. It is colorless. (8) _________ plasma contains things such as proteins and salts, it is thicker than water.

1. A. burn B. hit C. cut D. sting

2. A. less B. little C. much D. many

3. A. Blood B. Water C. Body D. Bone

4. A. others B. together C. another D. other

5. A. instruction B. information C. pollution D. protection

6. A. dressing B. bleeding C. letting D. standing

7. A. that B. it C. which D. they

8. A. Because B. But C. So D. And

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A. have​B. would have​C. had had​D. should have

A. would have visited​B. visited​C. had visited​D. visit

A. Needed​B. Should I need​C. I have needed​D. I should need

A. Had I known​B. Did I know​C. If I know​D. If I would know

A. spoke​B. speak​C. had spoken​D. will speak

A. I will never mention​B. I never mention​C. will I never mention​D. I don’t mention

A. didn’t make​B. wouldn’t have made​C. won’t make​D. don’t make

A. answered​B. answer​C. would answer​D. are answering

A. would have never believed​B. don’t believe​C. hadn’t believed​D. can’t believe

A. doesn’t agree​B. didn’t agree​C. hadn’t agreed​D. wouldn’t agree

A. had he told me​B. he had told me​C. he has told me​D. he would tell me

A. had studied​B. studied​C. hadn’t studied​D. didn’t study

A. would call​B. called​C. would have called​D. will call

A. comes​B. came​C. come​D. should come

A. will need​B. need​C. would need​D. needed

A. work​B. will work​C. have worked​D. would work

A. was​B. is​C. were​D. had been

A. would go down​B. would have gone down​C. went down​D. had gone down

A. had been enough water​B. were enough water​C. would be enough water​​D. are enough water

A. had undergone​B. would undergo​C. undergoes​D. was undergoing

A. would meet​B. will meet​C. met​D. should meet

A. had had​B. had​C. has​D. has had

A. will go​B. would go​C. went​D. should have go to

A. stood​B. stand​C. standing​D. stands

A. be​B. is​C. was​D. were

V. Read the letter below, then answer the question (Hãy đọc kĩ lá thư sau, sau đó trả lời các câu hỏi):

Dear Sir, In reply to your advertisement in the Saigon Times for a typist. I beg to apply for the post. I’m nineteen years old, and I have passed my Form II examination. I have been attending a well­known commercial school for more than six month to learn Typewriting and Book­keeping. At the moment I can type thirty­five words per minute. Before I left school, I was the editor of my class magazine for tow years. My teachers have spoken well about my knowledge of English. I therefore feel confident that I can carry out my dirties to your satisfaction,if you offer me the post. I shall be grateful if you would appoint me to post.

Yours fathfully,

David Solary

1. Who wrote the letter above?

2. What did he write the letter for?

3. How old is he?

4. What about his study?

5. How fast can he type?

6. What did he do before he left school?

7. how will he feel if he gets the job?

Fill in the blanks with the suitable prepositions

Put the affected part of the burn ....... a running cold tap if possible

She fell ...... her bike and hit her head on the road

What do you do know ...... A first _ aid course? Please tell me what you know

The rescue team tried to take them out ..... the fire

Will you inform your classmates ....... the change ...... schedule?

You shouldn't take ...... warm clothes. It starts to be colder then before

Will you come........ to my place on the weekend?

• nenthivaoday

VI I I. Rewrite each of the following sentences in another way so that it means almost the same as thesentence printed before it.

1. I wan t you to help me carry my bags.

Can __________________________________________________________________?

2. Do you want me to warm the milk for you?

Shall _________________________________________________________________?

3. I want you to help me with math problem.

Will __________________________________________________________________?

4. He climbed the tree because he wanted to get a better view.

He climbed the tree so ____________________________________________________

5. She is studying very hard because she doesn’t want to fail in the exam.

She is studying very hard in ________________________________________________

6. Harry left early because he didn’t want to miss the train.

Harry left early so as _____________________________________________________

7. He said nothing because he didn’t want to make his mother angry.

In order ________________________________________________________________

8. I’ll give you a map so that you can find the way all right.

I’ll give you a map so ______________________________________________________

9. I promise to pay you back on Saturday.

I’ll _____________________________________________________________________

10. I promise not to talk to Richard again.

I _______________________________________________________________________

• Nguyễn Kim Ngân

Complete the following selection ( Hãy hoàn thành bài đọc sau ) : duty, me, proud, love, angle, behaviour, have, take, and, teachers. YOUR SCHOOL LIFE (cont.) …. But I look at things from quite a different (1) ………………. . I’m a student and as such (2) ……………….. some duties and responsibilities. I have to do as my parents bid (3) …………. to do. I hve to learn something and to read (4) ……………….. write a lot. I have to please my teachers by conduct and (5) …………………. I have to work hard. If I do my (6) …………….. diligently I have nothing to be afraid of. I know that my parents at home and the (7) ………… at school are all my wishers. I feel very (8) …………… of myshelf when I see that my parents (9) …………………. Care of me. The love of teachers is a rate ting I know all (10) ……………….. be very much

• Trịnh Hồng Minh Châu

IV. REWRITE

1. Please don’t smoke in this room.

Would you mind ................................................................................................................

2. Could I turn the air conditioner on?

3. Could I have his telephone number?

Do you mind .....................................................................................................................

4. Can I participate in Y & Y organization?

Do you mind.......................................................................................................................

5. Will you permit me to go to BTS’s concert tonight?

Would you mind .................................................................................................................

6. A thief stole my car last night.

My car ..............................................................................................................................

7. His friends draw these pictures.

These pictures....................................................................................................................

8. Nha Tran didn’t win the prize last summer.

The prize............................................................................................................................

9. They make shoes in that factory.

Shoes ................................................................................................................................

10. They also speak German at EU meetings.

German ..............................................................................................................................

11. The boy is a millionaire. He is sitting opposite us is a millionaire.

The boy...............................................................................................................................

12. The man is my uncle. He is standing at the door is my uncle.

The man............................................................................................................................. 13.The house belongs to Ms Jane. It was built last week.

The house...........................................................................................................................

14. The street is very wide. It leads to the school is very wide.

The street .........................................................................................................................

15. The system is very successful. It was used here.

The system ........................................................................................................................

16. This machine is easy to use.

It is ...................................................................................................................................

17. Some words are impossible to translate.

18. His parents had an impression on visiting his girlfriend’s house.

It’s ....................................................................................................................................

19. I’m sure that I can keep my promise.

I am ..................................................................................................................................

20. Japanese is difficult to learn.

21. Participating in this organization is not easy for him.

22. Ngoc and Vy usually reuse those pieces of used paper for drafts.

Those pieces of used paper................................................................................................

23. Corona Virus stopped us from going to school 2 weeks ago.

We .....................................................................................................................................

24. You’d better smoke outside.

Would you mind............................................................................................................

25. In the library, someone keeps silent to be a polite person.

26. Our school asked all of students to wear medical masks to prevent Corona virus.

All of students...............................................................................................................

27. That lantern is very cheap because it is made of paper.

That lantern........................................................................................................................

28. The girl is my friend. She is riding the red bicycle.

The girl ..............................................................................................................................

29. The picture was painted by Leonardo D. Vinci. It is hung over there.

The picture .........................................................................................................................

30. Keeping personal hygiene is a good way for you.

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Unit 9,10,11

Khoá học trên OLM (olm.vn)

• Toán lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)
• Toán lớp 8 (Cánh Diều)
• Toán lớp 8 (Chân trời sáng tạo)
• Ngữ văn lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)
• Ngữ văn lớp 8 (Cánh Diều)
• Ngữ văn lớp 8 (Chân trời sáng tạo)
• Tiếng Anh lớp 8 (i-Learn Smart World)
• Tiếng Anh lớp 8 (Global Success)
• Khoa học tự nhiên lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)
• Khoa học tự nhiên lớp 8 (Cánh diều)
• Khoa học tự nhiên lớp 8 (Chân trời sáng tạo)
• Lịch sử và địa lý lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)
• Lịch sử và địa lý lớp 8 (Cánh diều)
• Lịch sử và địa lý lớp 8 (Chân trời sáng tạo)
• Giáo dục công dân lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)
• Giáo dục công dân lớp 8 (Cánh diều)
• Giáo dục công dân lớp 8 (Chân trời sáng tạo)
• Công nghệ lớp 8 (Kết nối tri thức với cuộc sống)

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The teacher said to Nam “Come into my office, please”

1. The teacher said to Nam “ Come into my office, please” 2. “ We are going shopping this after noon” they said to Mr Quang. 3. “ My sister is a singer” said he. 4. “I will buy a new bike next week” she said. 5. “ I don`t know what Mai is doing now”she said. 6. “Don`t forget to send your parents my regards” Lan said. 7. Mary said  “I can go to the movies with you, John” 8. “ It isn`t foggy today as it was yesterday” said the teacher. 9. Linh said “Turn off the light before going out” 10. I said to him “ Stay at home” 11. My mother said to the kids "Stop fighting ". 12. The teacher said “Don`t make noise in the class” 13. “She learns Enghlish well " said his mother. 14. The child said to the beggar “ Are you very poor?” 15. He said to Lan “I will visit Ha Long Bay tomorrow” 16. She said  “Do you often do your homework after school ?” 17. He said “I went to the library yesterday” 18. The police asked “ Where did you stay last night ?” 19. The girl said “I am going on holiday tomorrow”. 20. They said “ We are going learning Enghlish now”. 21. “I`m going away for a few days. I`ll phone you when I get back”. 22. He said “My brother is a doctor here” 23. Nga said “I stayed at home yesterday” 24. She saked me “ Give me your ticket, please” 25. They asked him “ Don`t touch the button” 26. She said “I can`t find my umbrella” 27. “Please don`t smoke in the room”she said. 28. “ Run faster”he said to his friends. 29. “ We are growing vegetables” they said. 30. “ You are my best friends” he said too us. 31. “ I`m living in Hue now”Mai says. 32. “ I want to become a doctor one day” said he. 33. “ I’ll come and see you as soon as I can” 34. “ You should practice speaking Enghlish everyday” said my teacher. 35. She said to her son “ Go straight upstairs and get into bed” 36. The lifeguard said “ Don`t swim out too far, boys” 37. He said to Huong “ Could you give me a hand, please ?” 38. The traffic police said “ Show me your driving licience, please” 39. Nien asked Hoa “ Do you have many new friends ?” 40. They said to us “ You must go now” 41. I asked Nam “ Are you free tonight ?” 42. The visitors said “ Can we take photos ?” 43. She said “ Do you know the way to the station ?” 44. “ Will I finish my exercise at home ?” 45. She said “ Can you speak Chinese, Minh ?” 46. “ how old is your grandpanrent ?” the girl said.

47.They said “Who are you going with tomorrow ?” 48. “ Do you want to visit Great Wall in China, Tam ?” 49. “ Are you from Canada?” I said to the tourist. 50. “ Send me a postcard when you arrive in Paris” I said to Lan. 51. “ Why is she crying ?” Thu asked Hoa. 52. “ When do your children go wsimming ?” Mrs Ly said. 53. “ Will it rain tomorrow ?” the old boy said. 54. He says “ I live in a quiet village” 55. They said “ We must repair our house next week” 56. She siad to her friends “ You can use my bike today” 57. Hoa’s parents said “ We’ll visit you this summer” 58. “ How often do you wash your clothes ?” Hoang asked Nam. 59. She said “ he doesn`t buy this books for me” 60. Nam said " You should go to see the doctor tomorrow, Vinh” 61. “ I must do the gardening today” An said to Linh. 62. “What time do you go to school ?” she said. 63. “I wish I were a boy” Mary said. 64. “ Can I use your dictionary ?” Nga asked Thu. 65. “Do you like the film we watched” Tom said to David. 66. “ Will she be here for five days ?” John asked Ba

I/ Put the following commands and requests into reported speech:

1. Their mother said to them, " Don't make so much noise."

-> ……………………………………………………………………………..

2. The teacher said to Tim, " Come into my office, please."

3. The traffic policeman said, "Show me your driving licence, please."

4. Mrs. Jackson said to Tim, "Could you give me a hand, please?"

5. The lifeguard said, " Don't swim out too far, boys."

6. Nam said to the taxi driver, " Please turn left at the first traffic light."

7. She said to her son," Go straight upstairs and get into bed."

8. The policeman said," Don't touch anything in the room."

9. Mary said to John, " Can you carry my suitcase, please."

10. The doctor said," You should take these medicines every four hours."

11. The doctor said, "You shouldn't drink alcohol or smoke."

12. The nurse said to Nam, "You ought not to eat fatty food."

II/ Put these sentences into directed speech:

1. The teacher asked Susan to go to the blackboard.

2. He told me not to leave the  door open.

3. My mother asked me to help her with that heavy box.

4. Mrs. Jackson said Tim should improve his French pronunciation.

5. They asked their mother not to worry about them.

6. Nam's mother advised he shouldn't drive too fast.

7. The policeman told me to move my car.

8. The doctor said I should stay in bed for a few days.

III/ Change these sentences into indirect speech:

1. " Don't throw things away," Miss Linda said to the students.

2. " Shut the door but don't lock it," she said to us.

3. Tom said, " I'm a student."

4. Nga said to her brother," I can't answer this question."

5. Charles said, " I'm living in London now."

6. He said to us, "You are my best friends."

7. John said to me, " I don't know what Fred is doing."

8. She said, " I will answer the phone."

9. He said to his friends, " I must go home now."

10. Hoa said, " I can't go out after 8 p.m."

11. She said to me, " I will come and see you as soon as I can."

12. Judy said, " John wants to come here but he isn't very well."

13. Susan said, " My sister is coming to see me next week."

14. Judy said to me, " I'm going away for a few days. I'll phone you when I get back."

15. "We are waiting for the school bus," said the children.

16. She said to me, " Turn off all the lights when you go out."

17. Mary asked me, " Do you want to visit London?"

18. She said, " Can you speak English?"

19. Thanh said to her teacher, " Will I finish my exercise at home?"

20.  Nien asked Hoa, " Do you have many new friends?"

21. My friend said, " Are you going to leave tomorrow?"

22. They said to us, " Must you go now?"

23. I asked Nam, " Are you free tonight?"

24. She asked the tourists, " Do you know the way to the station?"

25. John said, "Is Phong Nha Cave in southern Vietnam, Nhi?"

26. The visitors said, " Can we take photos?"

27. Daniel said to Tim, " Is there a cafe nearby?"

28. He said to me, " Don't forget to post the letter."

29. Nhi said, "I am visiting Hoi An now."

30. " Can you open your bag, please?" said the customs officers.

31. John said , " I don't know how to this exercise."

32. She said, " I must stay at home tomorrow."

33. Hao asked Tim, " Do you like this place?" - " No, I don't."

34. The man said to Nam, " The clock will never work again if you try to repair it."

35. The teacher asked Nga, " Is Mouth Everest the highest mountain in the world?"

            -" Yes, it is."

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1.The teacher told Nam to come into her office

2.They told Mr Quang to go shopping that after noon.

3.He said that his sister was a singer.

4.She said that she would buy a new bike the next week.

5.She said that she didn't know what Mai was doing then.

6.Lan told me not to forget to send my parents her regards.

7.Mary said John she could go to the movies with him.

8.The teacher said that it wasn't foggy that day as it had been the day before

9.Linh told me to turn off the light before going out.

10.I told him to stay at home.

11.My mother told the kids to stop fighting.

12.The teacher told me not to make noise in the class.

13.His mother said that she leant English well.

14.The child asked the beggar if I was very poor.

15.He told Lan to visit Ha Long Bay the next day.

16.She asked me if I did my homework after school.

17.He said that he had gone to the library the day before.

18.The police asked me where I had stayed the before night.

19.The girl said that she was going on holiday the next day.

20.They said that they were going learning English then.

21.I said that I was going away for a few days,I would phone you when I got back.

22.He said that his brother was a doctor there.

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1/The teacher told Nam to come into her office

2/They told Mr Quang to go shopping that after noon.

3/He said that his sister was a singer.

4/She said that she would buy a new bike the next week.

5/She said that she didn't know what Mai was doing then.

6/Lan told me not to forget to send my parents her regards.

7/Mary said John she could go to the movies with him.

8/The teacher said that it wasn't foggy that day as it had been the day before

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放課後はいつも疲れているのでしばしば夜遅くに宿題をします。 放課後=after school しばしば=often

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